Positive Masculinity Model
At Inner Warrior Therapy, we recognise the unique challenges that men face in today’s world, particularly as it relates to societal expectations around masculinity. Men are often expected to meet rigid standards of toughness, emotional control, and stoicism, which can hinder their ability to seek help, express vulnerability, or build meaningful relationships. This is where the Positive Masculinity Model, developed by Kiselica and Englar-Carlson in 2010, becomes an invaluable framework for therapeutic work with men.
The Positive Masculinity Model provides an alternative to the traditional, often harmful, ideals of masculinity. It focuses on developing healthy, adaptive masculine traits that encourage men to thrive emotionally, mentally, and socially. At Inner Warrior Therapy, we incorporate the principles of this model into our psychotherapy practice to help men build better lives by fostering personal growth, resilience, and emotional well-being.
Key Principles of the Positive Masculinity Model
Kiselica and Englar-Carlson’s model highlights several core principles that we use to guide our work with male clients:
1. Emotional Awareness and Regulation
One of the primary focuses of the Positive Masculinity Model is helping men develop greater emotional awareness and regulation. Traditional masculinity often discourages emotional expression, particularly vulnerability. This model encourages men to recognise and express a full range of emotions, including those often suppressed, such as sadness, fear, or empathy. At Inner Warrior Therapy, we help men understand that emotional awareness is a strength, not a weakness. By building emotional intelligence, men can improve their relationships and manage stress more effectively.
2. Healthy Relationships
Positive masculinity encourages men to create and nurture healthy, supportive relationships. This principle emphasises the importance of mutual respect, open communication, and emotional intimacy. We support men in developing the skills necessary for building healthy partnerships, whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or professional environments. By enhancing communication and empathy, men can create deeper connections and more fulfilling lives.
3. Responsible and Compassionate Leadership
In this model, leadership is viewed not as domination or control, but as responsible, compassionate guidance. Men are encouraged to lead with integrity, taking into account the well-being of others. At Inner Warrior Therapy, we support men in cultivating leadership qualities that are rooted in compassion, collaboration, and respect, whether in the workplace, family dynamics, or community roles.
4. Self-Respect and Accountability
Positive masculinity promotes self-respect and accountability, which are vital for building a healthy sense of self-worth. It encourages men to take responsibility for their actions and decisions without feeling the need to defend or justify them. At Inner Warrior Therapy, we work with men to develop a strong sense of personal integrity, helping them set healthy boundaries, make empowered choices, and take pride in their authentic selves.
5. Physical and Mental Health
A key component of positive masculinity is recognising the importance of both physical and mental health. Men are encouraged to care for their bodies and minds, engage in regular self-care, and seek help when needed. We help men explore how to balance physical strength with emotional well-being, ensuring they lead lives that are not only productive but also mentally and physically sustainable.
How We Incorporate the Positive Masculinity Model at Inner Warrior Therapy
At Inner Warrior Therapy, we take a client-centred approach to psychotherapy, tailoring each session to the unique needs and experiences of the individual. By integrating the Positive Masculinity Model into our work, we support men in building a more authentic and fulfilling life.
Tailored Therapy: We take into account each client's background, values, and understanding of masculinity, ensuring that therapy feels relevant and empowering. By respecting their values and reframing traditional masculinity in a way that resonates with them, we encourage men to embrace positive traits and let go of outdated or harmful beliefs.
Building Emotional Intelligence: Through a combination of reflective techniques and skills-based interventions, we help men develop the emotional awareness necessary to understand their feelings, communicate effectively, and handle stress in healthier ways.
Challenging Societal Expectations: Men often feel pressure to conform to societal ideals of masculinity, which can lead to isolation, shame, and anxiety. We work with men to recognise and challenge these unrealistic expectations, encouraging them to define their own version of masculinity that promotes well-being and personal growth.
Promoting Holistic Health: We incorporate discussions around both physical and mental health, helping men understand the connection between their body and mind. From stress management techniques to encouraging a healthy work-life balance, we help men maintain holistic well-being.
Practical Tools for Change: In line with the Positive Masculinity Model’s emphasis on responsibility and leadership, we work with men to build practical strategies for life, from improving their relationships to enhancing their career prospects. We empower men to take charge of their lives and make decisions that align with their values and goals.
Conclusion: Empowering Men to Build Better Lives
The Positive Masculinity Model offers a powerful alternative to traditional, restrictive views of masculinity. At Inner Warrior Therapy, we embrace these principles to help men overcome the challenges they face, develop emotional resilience, and lead healthier, more meaningful lives.
If you’re a man looking to explore and redefine your own version of masculinity, or if you want to break free from outdated gender expectations, our therapy services can provide the support you need. By integrating the Positive Masculinity Model into our practice, we are committed to empowering men to live authentically and with purpose.
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carl@innerwarriortherapy.co.uk
07307224924
Carl Stephens Founder of Inner Warrior Therapy
